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5:17 pm
August 18, 2011
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Why do you think so many Muslims have boyfriends and girlfriends now a days
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6:11 pm
August 18, 2011
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Ikraam
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because they wanna 'fit in' with society or they might not even know that it's haraam to have one
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6:13 pm
August 18, 2011
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zakstar
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in primary school, my teacher would ask me "so-and-so has a girlfriend, what about you? so-and-so likes you"
this society teaches it as an ESSENTIAL must have thing. 
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11:01 am
August 19, 2011
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Laila08islam
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Post edited 11:02 am – August 19, 2011 by Laila08islam
Subhan'Allah it's really sad to see. Some of the stories I hear about our sisters behaving as well is totally disgusting…and this is while they are in full hijab/niqab. It's not just the schools though. Parents REALLY need to instil in their children that no benefit will come by having a bf/gf and that their body is something sacred for the person they marry. And men need to be raised to know that they are being primed for when the time comes to marry their muslim queen…forget about these any girls on road, or fitting in. We are a new generation now and we are having children. We need to make a drastic change in the way we raise our own kids…and also try to help our peers get back on the path of Allah in shaa Allah.
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1:41 pm
August 19, 2011
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Ukhtii Ayaan
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Subhan'Allah many muslim youths are being misguiding into the wrong doings, its really upsetting having to see a muslim have a relationship other than marriage with another muslim, like sister Laila08islam has said every man needs to be taught that one day he will be able to go off and marry his muslim queen for the sake of Allah without comminting zinnah.
May Allah guide us All..Ameen!
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2:46 pm
August 20, 2011
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what can we do to help this problem
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3:53 pm
August 20, 2011
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un805
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I think there has to be support from different people in the society.Firstly,parents seriously need to know their children a lot of parents think they know their child but in reality they don't have a clue what their child is doing behind their back.I think communication is key children need to be able to discuss these matters with their parents.Also i think throughout the teenage years it is important to have good friends because peer pressure can easily affect so many people.More than anything i think teenagers who are in this situation need to seriously get advise and support from people who are older than them.Before it's too late……
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4:38 pm
August 20, 2011
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munirahonline
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Salaams everyone. I work in a london based secondary school that has many muslim students. I have definately come to find that there is alot more going on amongst muslim youth than what we may have thought. boyfriends, girlfriends, sex, shop lifting, being in gangs etc. I definately agree that initially it needs to come from the parents. Most muslim parents opt out of their children having sex education at schools (which i can agree with, the videos they show at my school are so misguiding) however they arent having any form of discussion about sex, bf/gf with their children outside of this. If the children dont know what can happen to them as a result of sex (islamically and biologically) then why will they steer clear of it? A sex education video was shown at school and it was showing the children what masturbation is and how to do it. I took it upon myself to discuss privately with the muslim students in my class that doing this is prohibited in islam and almost all of them thought i was joking/lying. subhanallah. If nobody tells them how will they know how to manage and control their desires? Also I have found with some of the muslim brothers i work with (aged 13,14,15) they have older brothers who arent practicing, are drug dealers, in gangs living a fast life and unfortunately their younger brothers are being influenced by this whether they realise it or not so it is definately about role models.
There are many muslims above teen age that have boyfriends/girlfriends and have younger siblings that know about it so therefore think it is acceptable. Muslims who have younger siblings definately need to remind themselves that no matter what they do have an influence on their siblings and try to practice the deen with the hope that they will follow the same steps.
I have definately noticed a positive change in the muslim students i work with islamically because myself and another muslim colleague speak to them about the deen and how they can use it in their daily lives and it would be fantastic if more of the muslim ummah could work in schools and be positive role models for muslim youth. not every muslim child attends an islamic school especially if they have special needs but they still need islam to be involved in their schooling. Also maybe an islamic youth club? maybe that could be the next roadside to islam project inshallah.
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10:45 am
August 21, 2011
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Laila08islam
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Post edited 10:45 am – August 21, 2011 by Laila08islam
I think an islamic youth club is a really good idea. However, it wouldn't reach very many. I agree that if more muslims were working in schools it might give our children other people to look up to. If the family is not practising then unless the child is getting outside input, they will probably follow the same path. There are SO many muslims in London and of course they're not all going to be in islamic schools. This really needs to be taken on by the entire muslim community. Back in the day, if muslim's saw a problem within the community, they would work to fix it. Maybe groups of young muslims could get together and start a new initiative whereby you would visit schools and give a quick talk to the muslim kids. If there is one main body, then smaller groups can be assigned areas/schools to focus on.
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8:26 pm
December 23, 2011
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Esya- Muslimah
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Subhanallah this topic is soo diverse.
I personally belive there are two main reason the first being the influences of friends around you and the ideology of conforming to what everyone else is doing because being the outcast sometimes is not a nice place to be.
The second reason is family pressure. I know many people who are currently with a man or vice versa because though they love many traits in eachother and see some form a future they try there best to not commit zina by asking there parents permissions to create something haram into something halal ofcourse in the right way and in turn the parents say "No". The main reasons i have found are because of race, jobs, money or education. For Allah has only asked for two things in a spouse and that is his "Deen" and his "Manners" but nowadays parents ask for more than he can give. Alot of my friends tell me there parents say no to another race because it would make life complicated for them but Allah say's "No arab has priority over a non-arab nor does a non-arab have over an arab."
The prophet, Peace be upon him, Said: "There is nothing better for two who love eachother than marriage."
May Allah make life easier for the young youth who truly try to find there way but are trapped by the expectations of the world around them.
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